10 Telltale Signs Someone Doesn’t Want to Be Your Friend


Sometimes people don’t show the same interest in us as we do in them. It can lead to big disappointments, and it is a huge waste of time trying to bond with someone who would prefer if we weren’t around.

Thus, below we provide a list of signs which show that someone doesn’t want to be your friend.

  1. You are the only one who suggests things to do. It doesn’t matter how busy you are, you will always find time for people about who you care. If your friend doesn’t suggest meeting and catching up and you are the only one who always initiates your meetings, it is very likely that they don’t want to be your friend at all.
  2. They cancel plans. Do you have that one friend who cancels all your plans at the last minute? It is very likely that they didn’t want to meet with you in the first place but didn’t want to sound rude by refusing to meet. Therefore, they cancel your plans because they either find something more important or interesting to do or they simply don’t want to see you.
  3. They don’t seem interested. When you finally meet up, your friend seems indifferent to you. He doesn’t ask anything about your life even if you haven’t seen him for a long time. It may even seem as if you are talking to a wall, which is another sign that he doesn’t want to be your friend.
  4. You are the only one who calls and texts. You may feel that if you didn’t text your friends, they wouldn’t do it either. Someone who is interested in you and wants to stay close friends with you will call or text you once in a while. If they don’t, it is a clear sign that they are not interested in you.
  5. They avoid one-to-one communication. If you want to be alone with your friend and he invites more friends, it is another sign that they avoid talking to you by bringing other people and paying more attention to them than to you. If you invite them to your home when they know they are going to be alone with you, they find every excuse why they can’t in order not to come.
  6. They don’t share their news with you. It seems that you get to know important details from their lives from other people. Someone who sees you as an important part of their life will tell you everything what happens to them. But if you happen to hear all those important things from other people or read about it on social media, it is a sign that they are not interested in you.
  7. Their body language is unwelcoming. You can also tell if someone wants to be friends with you or not based on their body language. People who are not interested in you will look away when you are talking and they can barely keep eye contact. They also check their phone often and appear bored and disinterested when you are talking.
  8. In a group, they always prefer to talk to other people. If you notice that your friend is funny and talkative with other people when you are at a party but when it comes to you, he doesn’t say a word and even pretends as if he doesn’t know you, it is another sign that he doesn’t want to be your friend.
  9. They are always busy or have a good excuse up their sleeve. Even if you ask them to join you on their favorite activity and they still find some silly excuse why they cannot come, it means that they are trying to avoid you.
  10. They give you short answers or forget to reply. How people behave on social media can also show how much they care about you. If it takes hours and hours for your friend to text you back when you know that they check their phones every minute, it is also a sign that they try to distance themselves from you.