Cara Delevingne has sparked attention with her candid opinion on men’s inability to properly pleasure women, asserting that many lack the necessary skills to satisfy women intimately. The 30-year-old, widely known for her remarkable career in modeling and acting, rose to fame after debuting on the catwalk during London Fashion Week in 2011. Her rise was meteoric, earning the prestigious Model of the Year award not once but twice, in both 2012 and 2014. She later ventured into the world of acting, securing prominent roles in films like Suicide Squad and Paper Towns.
Delevingne, who identifies as pansexual, has been open about her relationships with both men and women. She has been romantically linked to actress Ashley Benson, singer Jake Bugg, and actress Michelle Rodriguez. This fluidity in her dating history ties into her more profound understanding of human sexuality, which she has chosen to explore further in a BBC Three documentary titled Planet S* with Cara Delevingne*. The documentary investigates complex topics surrounding human sexuality, relationships, and even the rise of adult entertainment culture.
A significant focus of the series is the dynamic between men and women during intimate experiences. Delevingne highlights a concept known as the “org**m gap,” emphasizing that while 95% of men reach climax during intercourse, only around 65% of women experience the same. She challenges the societal norms that have historically simplified intimacy, sharing her perspective on the differences in sexual satisfaction between genders.
During one of the documentary’s episodes, Delevingne openly states: “I truly believe that most men aren’t properly equipped with the right tools to please women, especially when it comes to intimacy. The traditional education about sex oversimplifies the experience as ‘man plus woman, d*** plus v****a equals org**m,’ but the reality is far more complex. Pleasuring a woman is both complicated and rewarding, and it requires much more effort and understanding.”
Her exploration into the topic goes beyond commentary. In the series, she takes part in scientific studies, including one where she undergoes an experiment at a German university that involves self-pleasuring while her blood is drawn for analysis. Reflecting on the experience, she described it as one of the most unusual yet courageous things she had ever done, further emphasizing how essential personal discovery is in understanding one’s sexuality.
Throughout the documentary, Delevingne delves into her own experiences with her sexual identity and personal struggles. She has consistently identified as pansexual, which means she feels attracted to individuals regardless of their gender identity, emphasizing connection over labels. However, she admits to still facing challenges in fully embracing her sexuality. Despite being a vocal advocate for the LGBTQI+ community, she confesses that she often struggles with being open about her profound love for women.
Delevingne further reveals that growing up, societal stigma made her feel a sense of shame regarding her sexuality, which prevented her from fully engaging with the LGBTQI+ community. She expressed that, despite publicly coming out, she hadn’t actively participated in events such as Pride or engaged in LGBTQI+ spaces, admitting: “I never felt like I was part of the community. Yes, I came out, but I never attended Pride or met others who shared similar experiences. I never fully explored my queerness until much later in life.”
The series also provides insights into her dating preferences. While she has openly dated both men and women, Delevingne states that she tends to date more women than men. She elaborates, saying: “Sexuality is a spectrum. For me, it fluctuates, but I lean more towards women. I enjoy being intimate with men, but I rarely date them. Though, who knows? That could change.”
Delevingne’s documentary not only addresses personal revelations but also sheds light on broader societal issues around sexual education, intimacy, and the importance of open dialogue in understanding human connections. She challenges outdated notions and encourages a deeper exploration of pleasure and emotional connection in relationships.