For centuries, discussions about body image have largely focused on women, but men also face intense scrutiny—particularly when it comes to the size of their manhood. Whether it’s locker room banter, unrealistic portrayals in adult content, or cultural stereotypes that equate size with masculinity, men often experience deep insecurities about their bodies.
One man, however, is refusing to let outdated notions dictate his self-worth. Ant Smith, a man whose manhood measures just one to two inches when flaccid and four inches when erect, has decided to take control of the conversation. Instead of allowing shame to silence him, he’s speaking out—challenging society’s obsession with size and redefining what it means to be confident.
The Pressure on Men: The Unspoken Insecurities About Size
While conversations about body shaming often focus on women, men are not immune to unrealistic standards. Many men grow up under the impression that size determines desirability, virility, and even self-worth.
Vivek Wadhwa, a consultant urological surgeon, has highlighted the psychological toll this misconception can take, explaining:
“A man’s perception of his p**ile length can greatly affect his self-esteem. Most men who visit doctors with concerns about inadequate size actually fall within the normal range, yet they feel immense anxiety about it.”
A study by Clemson University found that most men overestimate the average size of an erect p**is, assuming it to be over six inches when, in reality, medical data suggests the true average is between five and six inches.
This widespread misinformation fuels insecurities, with a YouGov poll revealing that 42% of British men aged 18-24 would choose to increase their size if given the option.
However, research also shows that size is often less important than men believe. A study in The Psychology of Men & Masculinity found that 85% of women in relationships were satisfied with their partner’s size—suggesting that the pressure men feel is more societal than reality-based.
The Man Challenging the Stigma
For Ant Smith, growing up with a below-average manhood came with its fair share of struggles. As a young boy, he was relentlessly teased, leading to years of insecurity.
“I was bullied at school, and it made me so self-conscious that I didn’t have s* until I was 21,”* he admitted.
The pressure wasn’t just external—his own self-doubt led to moments of deep embarrassment.
“I would get nervous about using condoms because they would slip off—it was humiliating.”
For years, Smith suffered in silence, convinced that he was the only one struggling with this issue. However, as he grew older, he realized that his insecurities were not unique.
Turning Insecurity Into Advocacy
In 2014, Smith decided he had spent enough of his life hiding his truth. He took the bold step of writing and performing a poem titled Shorty, a candid and humorous piece about his experience living with a smaller manhood.
To his surprise, the poem resonated with thousands of people. It went viral, with men from around the world reaching out to share their own stories of insecurity and body image struggles.
Encouraged by the overwhelming response, Smith decided to take his advocacy further. He wrote The Small P**is Bible, a book that offers education, reassurance, and support to men who struggle with size anxiety.
The Role of Media and Adult Content in Fueling Insecurities
One of the biggest culprits behind men’s insecurities, according to Smith, is the adult film industry.
“Men grow up seeing unrealistic representations in adult content, which skews their perception of what’s normal,” he explained.
These exaggerated portrayals create a false standard, leading many men to feel inadequate by comparison.
“The reality is, most men are within a normal range, but because of what they see in media, they assume they’re ‘too small.’ It’s a completely flawed perception.”
Beyond the adult industry, mainstream culture has long used size as a punchline. Jokes about “small energy” or derogatory remarks about men with smaller anatomy reinforce the stigma, making it even harder for men to feel comfortable discussing the issue openly.
The Word He Hates Most
While Smith has learned to embrace his body, there’s one term he still struggles with—‘microp**is.’
He believes that medicalizing the condition with a clinical label makes it feel like an abnormality rather than a natural variation.
“It’s such a stigmatizing word. It makes something normal feel like a diagnosis.”
He wants to shift the conversation away from clinical terminology and toward a broader discussion of self-acceptance.
What His Wife Thinks
One of the most common questions Smith gets asked is how his size affects his relationship.
His response?
“My wife has assured me that my size makes no difference.”
He admitted that for years, his insecurities created a barrier in his relationship, as he struggled with feelings of inadequacy.
“Somehow, society has linked p**is size to manhood. It’s nonsense. But for years, I bought into that idea, and it hurt my confidence in ways I didn’t even realize.”
Opening up to his wife about his insecurities changed everything. By being vulnerable, he found reassurance and emotional support, which helped him see that his worth was never tied to a number.
“By keeping quiet, I wasn’t letting anyone else with the same problem realize they’re not alone. Now, I know that speaking up is the best thing I could have done.”
Redefining Masculinity and Challenging the Stigma
Smith’s story is about much more than just size—it’s about rewriting the rules of masculinity.
For too long, men have been conditioned to believe that their worth is tied to superficial attributes—whether it’s height, muscle mass, or p**is size. But voices like Smith’s are challenging that outdated belief system.
His message is clear:
“You don’t have to be defined by a number. You don’t have to fit into a stereotype of what society tells you a man should be. Confidence isn’t about how you measure up—it’s about how you carry yourself.”
By sharing his journey, Smith is not only helping himself heal but also paving the way for countless other men to embrace themselves fully, without shame or apology.